What is the TRUE Meaning of Love and How Do I Know if I’m Ready for Marriage? Based on the Bible. A Hebrew ‘Erverh’ Word Study Series [Part 1]
As is often the case, when we examine the meaning of various important foundational parts of our culture, we find it draws a STRONG contrast to the ideas we have learned in western, Greco-Roman thought.
No wonder divorce rates are 50%, and families are in disarray. Through western thought, we are given feelings and ideas about what love and marriage is. We are even given generalized, limitations of what our roles should be, as male and female, inside of a marriage, but NO ONE tells us what this looks like practically – meaning how to successfully walk this thing out and apply it in our day to day lives.
So here is what we are left with.
1) The model and the ideas are flawed, but
2) Even with a flawed model and ideas NO ONE shows us how these theories should be carried out in our day to day lives as husbands and wives. Thus,
3) Divorce rates are sky high.
So what are we left to do?
The only answer to this is to change the model we currently go by (based on Greco-Roman thought) and begin to follow the model from our true culture as Israelites, that The Most High laid out for us, as His TRUEST, most beautiful picture of the reunion of marriage.
What is the Hebrew ‘Erverh’ Meaning of Love?
Remember: Hebrew words are not just based on thoughts, feelings, or ideas. At its core, is an action.
So let’s examine LOVE.
The Hebrew word for Love is AHAVAH.
Looking closer into the makeup of AHAVAH (what love consists of), we see HAV.
HAV means “TO GIVE”.
AHAV means “I will give.”
So, the truest, concrete meaning of LOVE for us is being in a place or state of “I WILL GIVE.”
According to this biblical meaning, Love is a state a person enters into, where all they want to do is GIVE to the other person.
Quite, the opposite of the Western standard, huh, which is all about flighty, unstable feelings, focussing on how the person makes you feel and attempting to consistently express this broad grey area of inconsistency to create a successful relationship. What a task.
So, Am I in Love? From the Biblical Hebrew ‘Erverh’ Perspective
When determining if someone is in love, the Greco-Roman idea of love focuses on such questions as: – How does he / she make me feel? – How do I feel when I’m around him / her? – How proud am I to stand next to him / her? – How much does he / she do for me?
It’s all about me, Me, ME!
This is wrong, Wrong, WRONG! lol
The REAL measure of love and the proper questions that should be asked to determine if you REALLY love someone, according to the true biblical meaning of love is:
- What am I willing to let go of for him / her?
- How much of what I want, am I willing to let go of for him / her?
- How much am I willing to sacrifice for the sake of this person?
The Hebrew ‘Erverh’ true meaning of love is all about her, Her, HER, or him, Him, HIM!
Ahavah = I Will Give.
So, What is the sign that you are in love (Ahavah) with someone?
The question is: How much are you willing to sacrifice for the sake of the other person?